Reminds me of my mom getting remarried several years ago, for about a weekend – dude waited until after the wedding to tell her he expected her at waiting at home with dinner waiting when he finished work.
I dunno, like I get that this version of manhood is “normal” but goddamn is it the most brittle, contemptable fuckin thing
There’s this concept in Buddhism called mudita. It means “sympathetic joy” or “joy felt at another person’s happiness without one’s own bullshit getting in the way.”
I don’t understand why there ain’t more of that in the world. Why put schadenfreude on a fuckin pedestal when you can feel mudita, especially for someone you supposedly love?
If you’re a dude, admitting your vulnerabilities and communicating them honestly is an ISSUE and it’s something you need to do. But this kind of weird, brittle insecurity that demands that someone else be Less than You in order to feel secure or valued? That’s not the kind of thing that you just unpack on a partner. That’s the kind of thing you unpack with your THERAPIST so they can help you work through your PROBLEM. Because it Is A Problem.
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